tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28599360533436147792024-03-12T20:05:13.373-07:00Sharyn KopfTraversing the Ups and Downs of Surviving Singleness After 40 ...~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-17629853978193845762012-09-01T13:13:00.001-07:002012-09-01T13:13:20.376-07:00Broken<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEiARQXAOdN-c9vOoyvfXyt9MB0p1kHRISAK-FhZruLP5WtcClG0_sV0vXlbDIaeVv7JNFSQZxjVpXRX9XTwsfM9mbU5tn_ybMw3-BgNV9Nq1B35yQbqjqLAKvhFt-6le8OAxjIiomwb2F/s1600/broken-heart.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5496814872172029730" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEiARQXAOdN-c9vOoyvfXyt9MB0p1kHRISAK-FhZruLP5WtcClG0_sV0vXlbDIaeVv7JNFSQZxjVpXRX9XTwsfM9mbU5tn_ybMw3-BgNV9Nq1B35yQbqjqLAKvhFt-6le8OAxjIiomwb2F/s200/broken-heart.jpg" style="cursor: hand; cursor: pointer; float: right; height: 158px; margin: 0 0 10px 10px; width: 200px;" /></a><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">No matter how hard I try to prepare myself for disappointment, I can never quite make it. The hopeful romantic dreamer in me always believes the guy will love her back, she won't lose her job, the editor will say yes, and everything will work out in the end. Which means that no matter what I do to be ready for the worst, I am never truly prepared and the bad news devastates my heart.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">A few weeks ago, while vacationing in Colorado, I attended church with friends and the pastor spoke about brokenness. Two things that stood out for me were that 1. situational brokenness is universal and, 2. it's about the questions, not the answers. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">Everyone experiences heartbreak. Mine just happens to center, for the most part, around my childless singleness. But I am one of millions. I know many of these hurting women. Some are my dearest friends; others are strangers, yet, when I look in their eyes, I see the same ache I feel. Since it's such a heart-shaped pain, though, we tend to think we're all alone. Surely no one understands. Ah, but they do. And we can find comfort in that, while remembering the comfort we receive needs to be horizontal as we reach out to and encourage each other.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">Then, of course, there are the questions. Every devastating disappointment leads back to the depth of our insecurity: Does God love me? Does He care? Ironically, God has questions of His own: Will you still love me? Do you trust me? And He wants to know why I won't talk to Him. I suppose it's because I feel trapped in a whirlpool of the same prayer repeated over and over, and I wonder if there's any point. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">Of course there is. The point was, is and always will be my relationship with God, the work He is accomplishing through me, and, ultimately, the glory my life brings to His name. As long as I'm wallowing in self-pity, focused on my disappointed hopes, I'm letting the brokenness defeat me rather than allowing it to heal my heart and draw me back into a deeper communion with Him. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">Everything that happens in our lives has purpose, great or small. Whether it's so I can put an arm around a friend and tell her I know how she feels and mean it, or it's to allow God to accomplish far greater purposes. Much like he did with Joseph, who must have often wondered why the Lord seemed so distant while he was sold, beaten, imprisoned and forgotten. Yet he continued to trust and obey and, one day, could say to his brothers,<br /></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">"Do not be afraid, for am I in the place of God? But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive" (Genesis 50:19, 20).</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #000066;">Can we trust God enough to let Him break us ... and then be patient enough to see what He will do with our lives, one exciting, unpredictable ache at a time?</span></div>
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~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-51472611048021422062012-09-01T13:13:00.000-07:002012-09-01T13:13:02.451-07:00Love the One(s) You're With<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVGPdXiofntjaeqUuXs4d1zXl1-iZkWjg2BQR4zbw_IM3kjzN5kkXyWYUFZble_waQnPS1_wy7vqhjn_sjSOSLYdxyQjLIFrT7CvpZr8mEEtxLA_zvwUhBBT14NRUaguRkrU2lthQpFvn4/s1600/Holding+Hands.jpg"><span style="color: #990000;"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5573650089335730594" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVGPdXiofntjaeqUuXs4d1zXl1-iZkWjg2BQR4zbw_IM3kjzN5kkXyWYUFZble_waQnPS1_wy7vqhjn_sjSOSLYdxyQjLIFrT7CvpZr8mEEtxLA_zvwUhBBT14NRUaguRkrU2lthQpFvn4/s320/Holding+Hands.jpg" style="cursor: hand; float: left; height: 194px; margin: 0px 10px 10px 0px; width: 259px;" /></span></a><span style="color: #990000;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000; font-family: georgia;">I have never been in love on Valentine's Day. There, I said it. It's a fact, Jack, & denying the truth publicly won't make me feel any better. So, I admit it freely &, in accepting the truth of it, can also say, with a twinge of sadness, that it's actually a good thing. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #990000;"><span style="font-family: georgia;">Over the years--decades, in fact--the holiday has become all and only a celebration of the love I have for friends and family. Am I aware of hand-in-hand lovers with their meaningful glances and champagne whispers? Well, sure. Kinda hard to miss it. The hearts & flowers & chocolate fairly squeal the benefits of romantic love into our faces. We are surrounded by happy two-somes & their ubiquitous Facebook announcements of long-term commitment. Yes, Valentine's Day is, and always will be, the toughest day to ignore my lonely single heart.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #990000;">Which means I have to try a little harder. Put my focus on friends & family, watch anything BUT romantic movies, find new &, occasionally, unique ways to enjoy the day. Tonight, I'm meeting other single friends for dinner. Last year, I spent time with my family. Several years ago, I hosted a princess party & invited all my girlfriends to dress as their favorite princess for an evening of sweet treats & silly games. Another time, we dipped fruit & wafers in chocolate fondue while laughingly listing our least favorite romantic songs & movies at an Anti-Valentine's Day Party. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #990000;">Ironically, it seems I am less likely to sit at home bemoaning my singleness on February 14th. I choose to grab onto the love I have for family & the camaraderie of friends instead. To think about all God has given me rather than the longings still pounding against my heart. </span></div>
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~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-13377645920414924982010-04-03T18:45:00.000-07:002010-04-03T20:30:22.870-07:00Runaway Train<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2Q0LEp4-npd9QuB2fBnAs_1H22kBDIDNwMdnA-9SETj5YRAg-le4nRX0jci57Yxlb0V1vAR6iulSWMZ90cdw-lLNysPV5jaVN2LaQeYOd7yOxqRQxDYcfIJ2AUUKJLrhHVWrdIobX308w/s1600/Runaway+Train.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 231px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5456111022236657218" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2Q0LEp4-npd9QuB2fBnAs_1H22kBDIDNwMdnA-9SETj5YRAg-le4nRX0jci57Yxlb0V1vAR6iulSWMZ90cdw-lLNysPV5jaVN2LaQeYOd7yOxqRQxDYcfIJ2AUUKJLrhHVWrdIobX308w/s320/Runaway+Train.jpg" /></a><br /><span style="color:#336666;">I am frustrated by my limitations. I can't make someone give me a job or stop an employer from letting me go, no matter how desperately I need the work. From now on, the decision made by any of the publishers considering my manuscript is out of my hands. I will continue to get older, meaning more wrinkles and age spots and unwanted hairs -- whether gray or in unappealing places -- as the years go by. And I cannot make someone fall in love with me.<br /><br />But there are things in my control. My weight, for instance. Yet I often find myself acting like my fatness is something that happened to me, not something I do to myself. Instead of making smarter choices, I give in to the craving of the moment as if I am powerless to say no. So I eat what I don't need when I'm not hungry, then boo-hoo over pictures that "make me look fat."<br /><br />Can I find the power within me to change? To undo years of bad habits and replace them with actions that will improve my life won't be easy, but that's a cop-out. We don't make wise decisions because they're easy. We make wise decisions because to do otherwise makes a waste of the years God has given me. My existence on this earth lasts only a moment, as long as it takes a leaf to fall to the ground.<br /><br /></span><blockquote><span style="color:#336666;">"For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away." -- James 4:14b </span></blockquote><br /><span style="color:#336666;">Of course, this change must go further and deeper than eating right and exercising regularly. All the areas of my life where I make excuses for bad choices must be reconsidered. God doesn't ask me to make the best of the years He has given me. He expects it.<br /><br /></span><blockquote><span style="color:#336666;">"For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's." -- 1 Cor. 6:20</span></blockquote><br /><span style="color:#336666;">So, when I start feeling frustrated by my limitations, perhaps I would do well to remember God is in control and "with God all things are possible."</span>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-80951417021148740552010-02-21T15:12:00.000-08:002010-02-21T19:04:24.762-08:00Going Solo<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxjJVWLfbNPql1uWA5d_KTmqulbG0K4lPbt_NQ5B0Bj915YVl6cXTfIngASaE5r3X1x9j9ux-hBCgt91AALMAJ9tJI6loKz-7I1b0Hf4n76QEmzL2fvKR4a9f0aE7Dxyf5njASVKmmKEpn/s1600-h/Hot+Air+Balloon.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 223px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5440898259222169010" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxjJVWLfbNPql1uWA5d_KTmqulbG0K4lPbt_NQ5B0Bj915YVl6cXTfIngASaE5r3X1x9j9ux-hBCgt91AALMAJ9tJI6loKz-7I1b0Hf4n76QEmzL2fvKR4a9f0aE7Dxyf5njASVKmmKEpn/s320/Hot+Air+Balloon.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWeg31ysRzSa1Zn_Y3nV9uGjn_IPFD2ZjHJiAaYPC5DXldSN2fnyoO7U94TtnKkmaAXY1YsKK_eSFxUQJLVC3Qqa03TcXKVzIbn2KcvnysrMgJypymTQGKaGExdCqHWctNiLowZBuX1st0/s1600-h/Hot+Air+Balloon.jpg"><span style="color:#993300;"></span></a><span style="color:#993300;"></span><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#993300;">I titled this “Going Solo,” which almost sounds like the journey is just getting started rather than what it actually is: the only one I’ve ever known. You can’t be mid-forties and single and not have a very clear understanding of what that involves. It means you don’t have someone to pick you up at the restaurant door during a rainstorm. It means you’re on your own when it comes to killing spiders or trying to figure out your taxes. And if you want to start a freelance writing business, you certainly do not have a second income or your spouse’s insurance to hold on to during the dial-up years.<br /><br />Those are the selfish reasons. On the giving side, if you’re in the mood to make chicken stir-fry or a pot roast, you can’t be sure you’ll have someone to share it with. You might not be able to give that perfect gift to your perfect someone at the perfect moment. And all those smiles and hugs and kisses you’ve been saving up may never find a beneficiary.<br /><br />But do you let it get to you? Do you give up? Or do you continue to wait, believing in something bigger than your limited imagination could ever configure? It might not make things easier, but knowing God is right there with you can certainly make the solo journey a lot less lonely. </span></div></div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-24300622485794741512010-02-01T08:52:00.000-08:002010-02-21T19:03:00.491-08:00Here We Go Again ...Well, here I am, once again trying to figure out what to do with my life. After two and a half years at Cedarville University, economic cuts have cost me my job.<br /><br />I'm choosing to see this as an opportunity. After all, I've been frustrated lately by the difficulty I've had finding time to do my own work. I still have this nonfiction book about being single over forty haunting me. Wouldn't it be nice, I think, to finally finish it and move on to another project?<br /><br />My problem is too many ideas. I need to focus and finish. Now I have all this time -- five months! -- to do just that. It's pretty exciting when you think about it ... and I've been thinking about it a lot. My recent Facebook status updates have listed reasons to enjoy or appreciate being unemployed and looking at it that way has encouraged me.<br /><br />Unfortunately, we are in a recession and full-time writing jobs are hard to come by. I'd rather not move if I don't have to. I like living so close to my family and I've made good friends in this area. But when your options are limited, so are your choices. I may not have the luxury of choosing where I want to live. Five years ago, after I was laid off from Focus on the Family, I wanted to stay there, too. I soon realized that wasn't an option, so I moved. The upside to that was the chance to live closer to family. I hope I won't have to leave Ohio in order to get a job, but I have to make a living.<br /><br />For now, though, I'm not planning to move. In fact, it's looking good to start my own business so I'm working toward that. Time will tell and your prayers would be appreciated.~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-78638680885429263542009-02-20T13:38:00.000-08:002009-02-20T13:43:00.093-08:00Vulnerable<span style="font-family:georgia;color:#3366ff;">“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket -- safe, dark, motionless, airless -- it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”</span><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#3366ff;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#3366ff;"> ~~ C.S. Lewis </span><br /><span style="color:#3366ff;"></span>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-14806190440587999972009-02-20T13:03:00.000-08:002009-02-20T13:34:21.557-08:00I'll Just Get a Cat ...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbjS2Bt5cqLjxCrHHl5nPoiRyBqBOf27s66x4i431wBPDAiJPwnR75RN2t4OsybyL-Wi7ndqkjOwcoZDl_4c_Ht3Dkh5ZRIT1X9ioo-G4AeX6XkSgKAf2bTy1oqifFrUePPwcmSV0zgsSY/s1600-h/crazycatlady.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5304994076399833490" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbjS2Bt5cqLjxCrHHl5nPoiRyBqBOf27s66x4i431wBPDAiJPwnR75RN2t4OsybyL-Wi7ndqkjOwcoZDl_4c_Ht3Dkh5ZRIT1X9ioo-G4AeX6XkSgKAf2bTy1oqifFrUePPwcmSV0zgsSY/s320/crazycatlady.jpg" border="0" /></a><span style="color:#cc6600;">How does loneliness feel? That ache? That empty pounding in your brain? And then, to your surprise, you realize you're getting used to it. Eating lunch alone doesn't bother me at all anymore. Driving alone. Celebrating alone. Whatever. So, I ask myself: have I become boring? I mean, there is a lot I will -- & won't, for that matter -- do to protect myself, my heart. And I go home instead of out. Ugh. </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">All I need now are some cats. </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">But it's something I'm working on. Forcing myself to get out no matter how soft my slippers are or how many movies are loaded up on my DVR. </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">Here's the downside of that, though: Going out means meeting new people. Some of those people are guys. Single guys. Single, close-to-my-age guys. Guys I'm in danger of falling for because I'm a girl &, well, that's what I do. Whether I want to or not. And hopes rise only to be dashed again & I get another cat & lock my door. </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">Sure there's the hope that this time will be different. But age is my enemy. How many times do you have to be disappointed before hope fades to hesitation and hesitation turns to bitterness & despair? After all, I tell myself, isn't it better to expect the worst than to constantly be let down?</span><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">Animal shelter, here I come!</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">Guess I'm just not sure where God fits into my gradually decaying hope. Maybe He wants me to hope for something else. Certainly I still put my hope in Him, but what does that mean? That my hope is in His love for me? That I trust Him to continue to care for me & provide for me? </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">Well, there it is. The problem is it isn't about me. It's about Him. And if He can use me better as a single, then my hope must be in that -- not in any human relationship, but in what He wants to do in my life for HIS glory. </span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">End of pity party.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;">And yes, I do believe God likes cats. . . .</span><br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#cc6600;"></span>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-67711031590489774192008-11-25T10:57:00.001-08:002009-01-09T14:37:53.879-08:00Talking About It, Without Talking About It ...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmdmrA-mCIBBA85EWyzFhceoUAwvNUxe46DepAVwQ6a_FmPo7xtMlsYVdb1et88sPRoK4SIG1hUpSnwG-vALJs_yBCAo903Jq2P8hCIE9JMFd5zOuF8hO9BkjF_5ynvJya7VVrBHG843o3/s1600-h/prayer+to+mary.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5289425962985009586" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 282px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmdmrA-mCIBBA85EWyzFhceoUAwvNUxe46DepAVwQ6a_FmPo7xtMlsYVdb1et88sPRoK4SIG1hUpSnwG-vALJs_yBCAo903Jq2P8hCIE9JMFd5zOuF8hO9BkjF_5ynvJya7VVrBHG843o3/s320/prayer+to+mary.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;">One Saturday, not too long but still forever ago, I spent most of the afternoon and evening flirting shamelessly with the tall, dark & handsome Israeli man who had been hired to move furniture and boxes out of the house I am renting. He said his name was Abe, & he would take my hand or beckon with a finger for me to come closer. At one point, we were alone in my room as I showed him which furniture to take & what to leave behind. Again, that finger wiggled at me, urging me away from the safe distance I had put between us. I smiled, shook my head, & stayed right where I was. </span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;">I went to bed late that night, knowing the movers hadn't left yet; half of me wanting to hear a noise at my door, the other half dreading just that. Hey, I'm not a wicked girl, but I am human. And he made me feel more like a woman than I had in a long time. </span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;">It wasn't until I heard the truck drive away that I finally fell asleep. But even in my dreams, I tossed & turned & yelled at God. I'm still waiting for someone to tell me why it's fair that He would give me these feelings & desires & then insist that, if I'm going to be a good, obedient Christian I have to shove them aside on a regular basis & do whatever I can to completely ignore something so innately human. Am I supposed to be un-human? A stone statue? What was He thinking? Make me a rock, for heaven's sake. Anything but this. </span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;">A few years ago, I attended a talk for singles called "Holy Sex." The speaker, a long-time married man, suggested we take up hobbies as an alternative. Like knitting. He actually recommended knitting. Good grief. I could imagine him going home and his wife saying, "Not tonight, dear. I'd rather knit." And he, of course, would reply, "You know, that's a great idea! I actually feel more like knitting myself." People with their cupboards full should not hand out recipes to those who are starving.</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#663366;">And that's all I have to say about it at this time. . . .</span></div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-83397794660324096102008-10-24T10:03:00.000-07:002008-10-24T13:53:35.557-07:00Would You Know My Name?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKtYKdU17rMHvW_spUn48bYsbQo2_eLxqTM-oCfiAdvK2gtv5Owb311ED1kh5qyfvfen9o8o0IYmT12XVti18hrMQBFwEAdaszG58IN2ZHq28zEpxbUoGAoksnOB6pnisdQEQsusWuuF5M/s1600-h/tears_heaven.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5260773500816290306" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 206px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 318px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKtYKdU17rMHvW_spUn48bYsbQo2_eLxqTM-oCfiAdvK2gtv5Owb311ED1kh5qyfvfen9o8o0IYmT12XVti18hrMQBFwEAdaszG58IN2ZHq28zEpxbUoGAoksnOB6pnisdQEQsusWuuF5M/s320/tears_heaven.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div></div><div></div><div>Wow, I can't believe it's been almost 2 months since I was here. I suppose I stayed away because I didn't want to write about the sadness in my life & because I didn't feel I was ready to go back to singleness talk quite yet. But since the tears have been flowing at a swift pace lately, it appears that now I am. </div><br /><div></div><div>The topic of my singleness continues to grow as a struggle in my heart. I hate being angry at God about it. And I'm really just so tired of the whole thing. </div><br /><div></div><div>A few mornings ago I woke up with an aching heart. I'd barely come to full consciousness when the words "Why, God?" pulsated out of my dreams. But just as I started to glance heavenward, looking for an answer, something inside of me halted. I actually put up my hand and said, "No. I don't want to hear it." </div><br /><div></div><div>Now, let me preface that by saying I don't know that God was about to say anything. My fear that He doesn't speak to me will have to wait for a later entry. But, truth be told, I don't think I shushed Him that morning. If I thought God was truly going to say something, I'd be all ears. I was hushing what I suspected would merely be one more pointless conversation ... with myself. The same arguments, the same tears, the same expression of grief. All of which would go, once again, unanswered. </div><br /><div></div><div>They say, "Just wait." "Be patient." "God has a plan." But after two decades of hearing it and, for the most part, believing it, this hopeless romantic who always knew God had marriage and family in her future is beginning to doubt. And doubt leads to pain and pain leads anger and anger leads to a hardened heart. Which is the last thing I want. But I also don't want to hurt anymore. So I let the tears fall ... and close off my thoughts & emotions to everything else. </div><br /><div></div><div>Fortunately, I see what I'm doing & maybe, with the knowledge that God really does love me, I can find my hope & joy again. </div><br /><div></div><div>Even if He never <em>says</em> a word. </div><br /><br /><br /><div></div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-36091747320416392242008-08-26T08:47:00.000-07:002008-08-26T08:57:03.253-07:00Rolling Back the Grey Rain-curtain<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhXjmscPs0BgjIy-_mmOLbRIh3vsDtI6EwgcUXW5dwisEs5YbTSPZSFTkDlAeG2vW8QhVl-VIMzQn6VK1c1q4spykDNZwZWr9r8VX-6mBtA23N5kwFdbghhq9CN_x3xQIYf50fyDWrKhxUL/s1600-h/gray+rain-curtain.bmp"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5238855234509679314" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 325px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 223px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" height="190" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhXjmscPs0BgjIy-_mmOLbRIh3vsDtI6EwgcUXW5dwisEs5YbTSPZSFTkDlAeG2vW8QhVl-VIMzQn6VK1c1q4spykDNZwZWr9r8VX-6mBtA23N5kwFdbghhq9CN_x3xQIYf50fyDWrKhxUL/s320/gray+rain-curtain.bmp" width="296" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><br /><div>I re-watched the Lord of the Rings series over the weekend, and many of the lines took on special meaning in light of recent events, reminding me why I love these movies so much. . . .</div><div></div><br /><div>From "The Return of the King":</div><br /><div></div><div><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0101710/"><span style="color:#000099;">Pippin</span></a><span style="color:#000099;">: I didn't think it would end this way. </span></div><div></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005212/"><span style="color:#000099;">Gandalf</span></a><span style="color:#000099;">: End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path ... One that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass ... And then you see it. </span></div><div></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0101710/"><span style="color:#000099;">Pippin</span></a><span style="color:#000099;">: What? Gandalf? See what? </span></div><div></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005212/"><span style="color:#000099;">Gandalf</span></a><span style="color:#000099;">: White shores ... and beyond, a far green country under a swift sunrise. </span></div><br /><div></div><div><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0101710/"><span style="color:#000099;">Pippin</span></a><span style="color:#000099;">: [<em>smiling</em>] Well, that isn't so bad. </span></div><div></div><br /><div><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005212/"><span style="color:#000099;">Gandalf</span></a><span style="color:#000099;">: [<em>softly</em>] No ... No it isn't. </span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#000099;"></span></div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-64600875114442152422008-08-19T13:27:00.000-07:002008-08-19T15:19:53.117-07:00Brokenhearted<span style="font-family:verdana;color:#330033;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;color:#330033;"><strong>Last Friday, my friend left this world for the next. All those questions I have about heaven have been answered for him. As happy as he was on earth, I can only imagine the pure joy he is experiencing now.<br /><br />Not so for the poor wretches he left behind. Even though it's been almost two years since I've seen Jim, knowing it is no longer an option the next time I journey out to Colorado is beyond sad. Far worse is the grief that must be pulsing through his wife's heart. He and Brenda would have celebrated their fifth anniversary in October.<br /><br />But I imagine she will always carry his amazing love for her. A few years ago, while visiting them in Littleton, the two told me how much they liked the movie "The Notebook." Jim became particularly emotional as he remembered a speech near the beginning of the movie that he especially related to: "I am no one special. Just a common man with common thoughts. I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who ever lived. I've loved another with all my heart and soul and for me, that has always been enough."<br /><br />Add his love for Brenda with his love for God and passion for life, and I submit that this man was far from common.</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:Verdana;color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="font-family:Verdana;color:#330033;">He will be missed.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="font-family:Verdana;color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="font-family:Verdana;color:#330033;"></span></strong>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-57331165810072192372008-08-15T08:32:00.000-07:002008-08-15T08:57:56.501-07:00Can I Jump Ahead a Bit?<a href="http://northcountryguide.com/images/tourism/whitewater-whitewater.jpg"><img style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://northcountryguide.com/images/tourism/whitewater-whitewater.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="color:#ff6600;">This may just be one of the most emotionally draining times of my life. As I await news on Jim's condition (see previous posts) in Colorado, I'm also receiving updates on my dear cousin, Amy, who is slowly losing her battle with a brain tumor in North Carolina. At the same time, I'm struggling with depression, starting the process of moving ... again, stressing over the book proposal I haven't finished, trying to catch up at work after falling behind because of several trips this summer, and dealing with on-going health issues and insomnia. Yeah, no wonder I can't sleep.</span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff6600;">All the while, I realize the things that are breaking my heart have nothing to do with me. I don't know why God has chosen to, as yet, not heal Jim and Amy, but I'm starting to see how He is using the diverging whitewater rivers of Summer 2008 to do some work on me. How it will work out and what, exactly, He's doing remains to be seen. </span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff6600;">I wish I could close my eyes and wake up when things are back to normal. All the while realizing things may never be normal again. Besides, that's the cowardly way out. I am called to serve, minister, help and encourage, not try to hide from the pain.</span> </div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff6600;"><em><span style="font-family:georgia;">"God, show me how to get my mind off of me & focused on walking alongside those I love."</span></em> </span></div><div><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span> </div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-70708367672879990032008-07-30T12:42:00.000-07:002008-07-31T14:10:45.552-07:00Witness<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6-V1QTkOF2H_xErLC4Q2mdrVHmQBj6Zlc7oz1EtFRf6gG8JJemTsp9qKW7wS-I7ecK1gYaoTgSPWm4AWHVmb45wLzt3RTl5sa6ZkBQXpFSHvOpZS_7giRtzokNKn_rdk_0a-i9USEtQOE/s1600-h/Scan96.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5229281310530196802" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6-V1QTkOF2H_xErLC4Q2mdrVHmQBj6Zlc7oz1EtFRf6gG8JJemTsp9qKW7wS-I7ecK1gYaoTgSPWm4AWHVmb45wLzt3RTl5sa6ZkBQXpFSHvOpZS_7giRtzokNKn_rdk_0a-i9USEtQOE/s320/Scan96.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><br /><span style="color:#330000;">Today, I don’t have time to grieve my singleness, as I watch from a distance the deterioration of a dear friend’s husband. Now in a medically induced coma with multiple organ failure, Jim’s doctors no longer have much hope.<br /><br />It’s not often you get to witness two soulmates meet and fall in love. But that’s exactly what happened when Brenda met Jim. We’d been friends for several years & I had watched her turn down one guy after another. She wasn’t a flirt, but with her long blonde hair, quirky sense of humor & passion for God, she did get quite a bit of attention from men. But Brenda believed God had something else in mind.<br /><br />Then Jim showed up. We called him Happy Jim. Mostly because he was always smiling, but also because we had three Jims in our group at the time: Just Plain Jim, Tall Jim ... & Happy Jim. I don’t know what it was, but there was something about him that drew Brenda from the beginning. All her life, men had pursued her. Now, she saw what she wanted & she wasn’t afraid to let him know how she felt.<br /><br />Of course, he fell pretty hard, too. A few dates in & they couldn’t keep their hands off of each other. They adored spending time together — heading up into the mountains to see the moose or ski or just cuddle by the fire. Most of all, I remember a lot of laughing. They were head over heels and that October, I slipped into a gold bridesmaid dress & rejoiced as they said their “I dos.”<br /><br />I didn’t get to see Brenda as much after the wedding. Their lives changed as did mine, but the time we did get to spend together was precious to me. Then I got laid off of my job & ended up moving to another state.<br /><br />Last fall, I received the news that Jim had been diagnosed with cancer. It seemed too unbelievable & heartbreaking & just plain wrong.<br /><br />And now my friends are there, 1,200 miles away, suffering, & I’m here — helpless, sobbing alone in my car & trying to pray ... <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FdB5Adws78">anyway</a>. I wish I could be there; I wish I could help; I wish I knew magic words to say that would convince God to heal my friend & make things right again.<br /><br />But I can’t & I don’t.<br /><br />So we wait. . . .<br /><br /></span><span style="color:#330000;"></span></div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-61363030324407828702008-07-24T10:07:00.001-07:002008-07-24T10:11:21.766-07:00Life ... in Moments<span style="color:#003300;">Today's sucky moment ... & prayer request:</span> <span style="color:#003300;">Finding out one of my best friend's husband has been moved to ICU & put on a ventilator. Please pray for Jim & Brenda.</span><br /><span style="color:#003300;"></span><br /><span style="color:#660000;">Today's Oh Crap! moment: The car pulling out right in front of me on the way to work.</span><br /><span style="color:#003300;"></span><br /><span style="color:#333399;">Today's simple pleasure moment: Fizz from a fountain drink of Diet Coke tickling my nose when I took a sip.</span>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-55861906164562762062008-07-20T19:50:00.000-07:002008-07-20T20:02:09.881-07:00A Word of ..."<span style="color:#990000;"><strong>Hope</strong></span> deferred makes the heart sick ...<br /><br /> But <span style="color:#990000;"><strong>when</strong></span> the desire comes, it is <span style="color:#990000;"><strong>a tree of life</strong></span>."<br /><br /> ~~Proverbs 13:12~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-55858726372835877932008-07-20T19:44:00.000-07:002008-07-20T19:46:56.995-07:00Strangers on a Plane ... Almost<span style="color:#663333;"><strong>The airport waiting room overflowed with travelers by the time I arrived for my 4 p.m. flight Monday. So, I grabbed the first seat I saw, near the front & next to some guy.<br /><br />“Some guy” — I quickly surmised because I was eavesdropping — was on his way to Chicago on business. There seemed to be some confusion regarding boarding, so I offered information based on the fact I’d had the same question earlier. Turns out, “some guy” has striking blue eyes and great hands. We chatted briefly about flying and how, on this airline, having to pick your own seat meant that by the time we boarded all the good seats would be taken. Your basic easy-going banter, but nice enough to lead me to look for him on the plane, just in case there was an empty seat next to him.<br /><br />But I saw a decent aisle spot before I saw Blue Eyes and decided to grab it. And though we chatted briefly after landing, that was pretty much it.<br /><br />That’s not the sad part of the whole thing, though. The sad part is that I no longer hope for more. Years of “meet and greets” that have led to nothing have trained me to feel differently about possibilities. Not too long ago, I would have hoped for more, even daydreamed about it. Now, it all seems like such silliness. What an unfortunate girl.<br /><br />It is so hard to sense that hopeful, romantic side of me slipping away. I only pray I never give up on hope completely.</strong></span>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-90007561197553386462008-07-02T12:26:00.000-07:002008-07-02T13:16:40.684-07:00Wheels<img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5218504455435851970" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJWi1pDCeHA-K8uEtDbVUtmPRQ8ltYIEkB1J2FwGo1DbfrqYTGhu7u6hOUmPDNqjdWj7KJOwcU6IDOFhnNONoWnOLzN6T88HFEhco00KzEdvmsz9fuAzSFZ6TPR606qAJEvD4lvdUU9943/s200/GirlOnUnicycle.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;color:#000099;">I must admit I've become quite comfortable with my 3rd, 5th, 7th-wheel status. Not saying I like it, just that I seem to have made peace with it ... to a certain extent. Since I spend so much of my time with couples and, currently, have few single friends to hang with, being the odd girl out isn't as rough as it used to be, or as it would be for someone who was part of a pair but isn't anymore.</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;color:#000099;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;color:#000099;">If it sounds, however, that I've moved into the realm of complacency about the whole thing, then I'm not expressing myself well. I suppose I'm in denial about just how much I hate going to game night and being the extra player. Or having to paddle alone 'cause I don't have a canoe partner. Or strolling down to the beach amidst a gaggle of hand-holding pairs, listening to them sigh about how lovely & wonderful it all is while I try to laugh about rotic "romantic-without-the-man" experiences. But after 40 years of rotic nights, it's not funny. It just sucks.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;color:#000099;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;color:#000099;"><br /><br />Still, I act like it doesn't--& even convince myself it's all perfectly fine--'cause that seems to be what people want to hear. Besides, would I really want to go to game night & complain about being an extra? Isn't it far better to enjoy each experience as it is, even if a part of my heart is holding out for something more, someday? When I'm with family & friends, I can choose to live & laugh in the moment even though I know--deep, deep down--that I'll be crying in my pillow later that night.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;color:#000099;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;color:#000099;"><br /><br />I know this post is all up & down & over the place, but that seems to be how life is for this single, over-40 chick. Guess you could say that's just how I roll. . . .</span></div><div><span style="font-family:Trebuchet MS;color:#000099;"></span></div><div></div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-11469453274989866542008-06-19T09:57:00.000-07:002008-06-20T18:28:44.439-07:00Scalpel ...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5Ewdp4laur-Bc3EPg7gZE6sYz2zdOG-yQywVY8LF6oKzod_bSf4wN_61R4NY-iFcPmy3_uUEYiIdXTopTqBSIv5ld5kRecvQ4bd1sySWy6f82k288k951JtxSphSxtXBRngSgqD-kiWB3/s1600-h/scalpel.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5214053284366306402" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 128px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 170px" height="180" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5Ewdp4laur-Bc3EPg7gZE6sYz2zdOG-yQywVY8LF6oKzod_bSf4wN_61R4NY-iFcPmy3_uUEYiIdXTopTqBSIv5ld5kRecvQ4bd1sySWy6f82k288k951JtxSphSxtXBRngSgqD-kiWB3/s200/scalpel.jpg" width="128" border="0" /></a><br /><div>So, if to write is <span style="color:#660000;">to bleed</span> and to spill your guts <span style="color:#333333;">all over the page</span>, I'm going to have to do a CSI on the topic that <span style="color:#333399;">hurts</span> the most: my still-<span style="color:#cc9933;">single</span> state at the starting-to-fall-apart age of 44.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div></div><div>I know that sounds <span style="color:#003300;">entirely negative,</span> which, of course, presents a problem. It indicates <span style="color:#ff0000;">I am</span> not satisfied. That I've failed God's command to be <span style="color:#6600cc;">content</span>, regardless of my circumstances (Philippians 4:11). As a <span style="color:#33ccff;">good</span>, Christian <span style="color:#33ccff;">girl</span>, I am expected to do exactly that.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div></div><div>So, how does someone who has longed for marriage and a family <span style="color:#cc33cc;">all her life</span>--and now finds herself facing menopause still husband- and child-<span style="color:#006600;">less</span>--find contentment in her singleness?<br /><br /></div><div></div><div></div><div>Well, if I'm going to be honest, that's really <span style="color:#ffcc00;">not the question</span> I want to ask. Because I think it's okay to be sad that I'm still single. I believe I need to <span style="color:#999999;">grieve</span> what I have lost to time. And I think to do otherwise would be nothing more than <span style="color:#ff6600;">a feeble</span> attempt to <span style="color:#ff6600;">mask</span> the pain.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div>It's time to grieve. How did Solomon put it?<br /><br /></div><div><span style="color:#663366;"><blockquote><p><span style="color:#663366;">"There is a time for every event under heaven-- ... A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to mourn, and a time to dance."<br /></span><span style="color:#663366;">~Ecclesiastes 3:1b, 4<br /><br /></span></p></blockquote></span></div><div><blockquote></blockquote>First, we <span style="color:#66ff99;">give ourselves time</span> to be sad.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div></div><div>Then we <span style="color:#ff0000;">d</span><span style="color:#00cccc;">a</span><span style="color:#ffff00;">n</span><span style="color:#33cc00;">c</span><span style="color:#cc33cc;">e</span>.</div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-61357187494132174742008-06-18T09:22:00.000-07:002008-06-18T09:28:32.162-07:00This might hurt a bit ...<span style="color:#003300;">Some sportswriter named Red Smith (1905-1982) once said: "Writing is easy. You just sit down at the typewriter, open up a vein and bleed it out drop by drop."<br /><br />And he wrote about sports.<br /><br />I'm just saying. . . .</span>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-60789376529691601762008-06-18T08:14:00.000-07:002008-06-18T08:21:48.390-07:00On Writing<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCAfhYlCvrCK6jpIio6LUkZQ_hNqqi6uhcB7fIoPKJHcGuXigmZB4xCahhMoGd_aMKbhrbMFqm8nOe87MjgieN6Q2sOasBKWvgWAOz1To8mhTJOvtsG8iOuJ1I-vp-PiGHHlZ9WBnTDYcq/s1600-h/Mark+Twain+Writing.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5213241625972168722" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhCAfhYlCvrCK6jpIio6LUkZQ_hNqqi6uhcB7fIoPKJHcGuXigmZB4xCahhMoGd_aMKbhrbMFqm8nOe87MjgieN6Q2sOasBKWvgWAOz1To8mhTJOvtsG8iOuJ1I-vp-PiGHHlZ9WBnTDYcq/s200/Mark+Twain+Writing.jpg" border="0" /></a><span style="font-family:times new roman;color:#660000;">"You need not expect to get your book right the first time. Go to work and revamp or rewrite it. God only exhibits his thunder and lightning at intervals, and so they always command attention. These are God's adjectives. You thunder and lightning too much; the reader ceases to get under the bed, by and by."</span> <div><br /><div><span style="font-family:times new roman;color:#330000;">~~Letter from Mark Twain to Orion Clemens, 23 March 1878</span></div></div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2859936053343614779.post-75161821668645457912008-06-17T13:41:00.000-07:002008-06-17T14:05:34.020-07:00Yes, I exist ...<a href="http://www.boundless.org/2002_2003/departments/beyond_buddies/a0000737.html"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5212959141062903778" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 117px" height="132" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAtGOO47otsEIqyyVQQDcvftdMRicjV_SNJYULC2PH6J0ZgpPSyQCvNyw0P9ZV6csdSkAQGtt9mvPSNiYNPTm0siKbfjRpVeSOFBCPAaDQc3HLJpall16WHz85W4pz8Uk3QIvO6UNfaI8F/s200/virgin_pride.jpg" width="200" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Recently, while marveling over the wonderful world of writing with my pen-inspired soulmates at the Write-to-Publish Conference in Wheaton, IL, we were presented with the following question:<br /><br />If an editor Googles your name and nothing shows up, do you exist?<br /><br />Fortunately--or unfortunately, depending on your perspective--the first thing that pops up when you Google my name is an article I wrote five years ago (five years!) called "Virgin Pride." And though I think it's a good piece and I am, yes, proud of it, I have done other things since then. So, if you do search out my name, keep scrolling down. You'll find some interesting stuff ... including the fact that particular article has been translated into French. I just think that's cool.<br /><br />Anyway, this is it: my first blog. Should be interesting to see what happens. . . .</div>~sharynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03900618724766476779noreply@blogger.com5